Wednesday, March 4, 2015

"Upease"

"Upease"

It's what my little peanut says to me when he wants me to pick him up.

We haven't quite figured out why he says that, I think it might be a combination of the words "up" and "please" or "peas" as he says it. However it came to be, "upease" means he wants up.

When I am sitting on the couch and he runs over to me and points to my lap and utters that cute little word, "upease" I lift him up and set him next to me. But then he starts to whimper and whine because that's not enough. We are teaching him to communicate instead of burst into toddler tantrums so I ask him, "Jase, what do you want?" He points to my lap and again says, "upease." Being on the couch with me isn't enough for him. He wants to be close, he wants to cuddle. With my big belly currently in the way, he settles for being right up next to me, with my arm around him, as long as I am holding him close and tight. That is what "upease" really means.

Let's be honest. Sometimes "upease" makes me groan. I am working on the computer, or skimming through Facebook, or some other task and I know that I am going to have to stop what I am doing to answer his request. I have my moments where I am not really wanting to do that. But then I remember what's most important and I set my things aside and lift him up and hold him close.

It's the little things.

This little thing matters a whole lot to my little peanut. He loves to cuddle and be close, he loves to know that mama loves him. One day it won't be "upease" anymore. One day he won't want to snuggle up close. One day sitting next to me might be just enough. Or maybe sitting in the same room will be enough. The thought makes this mama heart ache...

So today, I want to remember these little things and I want to embrace them. At times when it irritates me to stop what I am doing, I'll remember that it won't always happen and one day I'll miss it.

Sadie Sky Boutique

What little thing in your motherhood journey do you need to embrace this week? I am linking up with Sadie Sky and A Mrs. and a Momma today sharing those little things. Won't you join us?

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Nurseries by Mimi {Shop Spotlight & Shop Credit Giveaway}




When you have a vision in mind that you can't seem to shake and you come across a person highly committed to making that vision happen it is pretty exciting. That is exactly how Jeanie runs her shop and she doesn't offer anything less. When I came across Jeanie's beautiful crib bumpers and reached out to her with exactly what I had in mind she went straight to work finding exactly what she needed to make this vision possible. Not only was she dedicated to making my dream come true, she was incredibly excited and passionate about doing so. There is no doubt that Jeanie loves what she does and her entire heart is in her work. She completed the order quickly and it was on my door step before I even expected it! It's been tremendously hard to keep it from you this long. So, let's not any longer...

Jeanie put together the perfect crib bumpers for Elyse's room. It's incredible how much they tie everything together. The fabric ties added the perfect feminine touch to the room and I couldn't be more in love. I just love how girly her room is and have had so much fun putting it together. The piping is perfect along the bumpers and the colors were perfect, exactly as I had imagined.

 
Now, you're not going to want to miss hearing the beautiful heart behind this shop AND be sure to read to the bottom for an awesome giveaway just for you!


Who is Mimi?

Mimi is actually me … Jeanie Allen.   I am wife, mother, grandmother, and professor of Developmental Psychology.  I currently live in Ozark, Missouri with my husband, Maggie and Mocha (our dogs), Misty (our cat), and 2 granddogs and a grand cat! 

I officially became Mimi in August of 2013 with the birth of Henri.  I struggled with what I wanted him (and other future grandchildren) to call me.  One day I received a card from the mother of my son-in-law addressed to Mimi (I later discovered that Mimi is the seamstress from the opera La Boheme.  Very fitting!) and that became my name.

 
What is Nurseries by Mimi?

Nurseries by Mimi is my “all things nursery and more” Etsy shop.  It actually began when my daughter was pregnant and asked me if I would make the baby bedding and accessories.  I grew up sewing and I was used to creating clothing, curtains, dust ruffles, pillow covers, and many other household items.  However, I had never made a quilt.  Being the adventurous crazy person that I am, I said, “Yes.”  And I fell in love with designing and creating quilts. 

My favorite task involves custom orders.  I get so excited when someone tells me they want a certain theme, or a set of colors, or even specific geometrical shapes.  I will spend hours (days, if I have to) searching for the perfect fabric just for that person.  The entire time I am creating my product, I constantly picture people smiling as they use my creations. 

I use only high quality fabrics, because I want your items to last many generations.  I believe that Mimi make memories!

I currently offer quilts, security blankets, burp cloths, bedskirts, bumper pads, pillow covers, crib sheets, and bibs.  I am always willing to try something new, also.  I have recently ventured into requilting (remaking a cherished quilt that needs an upgrade) and tee shirt quilts. 

 
Jeanie is offering one of you a $20 Shop Credit. All you have to do is enter the rafflecopter below. Also, my Instagram followers get bonus entries for every day they share the giveaway photo, so don't miss that opportunity!




 

Monday, March 2, 2015

Pink or Blue?

 
 
I know you already know that we are expecting a baby girl, but I thought it would be fun to double back around and share the story of how we told our families.

I wasn't supposed to find out what we were having for another four weeks, but the doctor at my 16 week appointment said we could take a peek since ultrasound was free if we wanted to try and see. How could I say no to that?! So we went into the ultrasound room and prayed that little one would cooperate!

I am not going to lie. I definitely wanted a little girl this time around. I just thought having one of each would be so fun, and I had definitely been wanting a little girl of our own. But I had been trying not to think too much about it because I didn't want to get disappointed. I mean, either way I would have been happy no matter what we were expecting, a baby is a blessing. But I didn't want to get my hopes up that it was a girl. So I got myself excited about little boy nurseries and Jase having a best friend so that I had something that excited me either way. This pregnancy felt different. I wasn't terribly sick, but just things about it were different that really gave me a feeling I was having a girl. I really felt like I was carrying a she this time around. But, even when the ultrasound technician asked, I didn't say. I didn't want to say what I was thinking either way.

She asked Chad and he said he was definitely hoping for a baby girl this time around, and right when he said that she said, well here she is! We were having a little girl! I was so excited, for so many reasons. Now we get to experience the best of both worlds!

 
So, I text one of my friends who was going to make cake pops to reveal the gender for me the day my ultrasound was originally scheduled for. I wasn't expecting her to be able to make them this time, on such short notice, but she's a rock star and she offered too. So we had a dozen made, and I mailed some to my family and my brother-in-law instructing them to face time us before biting inside! We took Chad's parents cake pops over to their house that weekend to reveal the news for them.

My family was so excited because they had called it from the beginning! So it was really fun to hear all their squeals and excitement through FaceTime...I am so thankful for technology! Chad's dad kept trying to peek at his mom's cake pop before biting into his, but she wouldn't let him see. They were both excited because they wanted a little girl, but never had one. And they're getting two granddaughters three weeks apart since my brother-in-law and his wife are having a little girl too!! So we are definitely going to have to build a collection of little girl toys, little girls clothes, and lots of little girl bows!!

Do you have a fun gender reveal story? I would love to hear it!

Saturday, February 28, 2015

34 Week Bumpdate



Gender:

GIRL!!! See our announcement photo here. Did anyone else ever have this crazy fear that you're going to go into labor and find out you've actually been pregnant with a boy this entire time?! Ha! All those crazy stories about people being told they were having a girl and then later finding out it was actually a boy are really getting to me! We haven't had an ultrasound since 20 weeks so I think that doesn't help.

Name:

Elyse Ann. I love the name more and more every day!

Due Date:

My due date is April 5, 2015, but we have a repeat C-section officially scheduled for March 31st at 9am! If she comes on her own once I have hit full term they will just do an unplanned C-Section. Part of me is kind of praying that she comes early and that ends up being the case because her current C-Section is scheduled for Easter week and being in ministry that's a very hard week to have a baby! It's been a little hectic trying to make sure everything is covered for three days of services that weekend. God ultimately knows the best time for her to arrive, but really early would be great! Don't we all say that?

Weight Gain:

My starting weight was about 128. At my last appointment I was at 152, so now we are at 24 pounds! So definitely more than I gained with Jase since I only gained 22 with him. But still in the healthy range. I really am hoping that I don't gain more than 30, but I know what matters is that she is healthy.

 Movement:
She moves all the time! She is also very good at getting into spots that cause mommy a lot of pain. But I love knowing she's alright in there and I love feeling her move around. It truly is such a blessing.

Craving:
I can't really think of any huge craving I have had recently. Although I get really hungry and need to eat, I can't eat too much of anything or else I have so much indigestion. So food and I kind of have a love hate relationship.

Yucky:

Still can't handle Mexican at all. And I have to be super careful about what I eat because digestion is going so slow. If I eat until I am full then I will feel huge and sick for a couple hours. I have to just eat enough to satisfy any hunger pains and stop. That is the not so fun part about the end of pregnancy.

Feeling:
Very sore. I tripped last week and tore a ligament in my lower abdomen, I have been pretty much couch stuck since. Anytime I try to move it is extremely painful. Sometimes I am able to walk it out a little and it's fine, but the more I move the worse it gets so it's been a lot of resting for this mama. I'm really ready to meet this little girl, definitely a lot more anxious now then I was with Jase.

Differences:

The end of pregnancy emotions you always get, you know the ones that are like oh my gosh I am about to have a tiny human in the house with me? Well those are magnified the second time around when you think, oh my gosh I am going to have two tiny humans with me and one will be a newborn who never sleeps and a toddler who never stops going. It is a little overwhelming and scary. I just go back and forth between wondering if I am going to handle it, how peanut's going to handle it, and everything in between. So the emotions seem a bit more heavy this time around.
Looking Forward to:

I really just cannot wait to hold this little girl and see her beautiful face! I can't wait to see how Jase responds to her, and how much her daddy is going to love her when he first sees her. I am just so ready for all the things that come with loving on a precious newborn again.

Thursday, February 26, 2015

When the Guilt Hits

Mom guilt is one hundred percent real and one hundred percent condemning. When it hits you, it hits out of nowhere and it's really hard to get yourself out of that funk. I have spent most of my time on the couch for the last week. I tripped over my son's blanket and tore a ligament in my lower abdomen, which immediately sent me to the ground in an extreme amount of pain. These ligaments are already pretty worn out at 34 weeks pregnant, so that just added an incredible amount of pain and I can hardly get around. I can't even sit on the ground because getting on the ground hurts tremendously.

Jase and I have spent a lot of time...and I do mean a lot...sitting on the couch watching TV, and especially his favorite Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. It's really all I can do, getting up moving around is incredibly painful. I haven't really sat on the floor to play with Jase like he longs to play. My kitchen is a disaster and I am sure there are other parts of my house that could use a cleaning too. I was feeling incredibly down last night because I can't play with my son like he wants. All we have done is watch TV. Daddy can get on the floor and wrestle with him, but I have to sit on the couch watching and wishing I could be his play mate too. As I watch them giggle and laugh my heart hurts because I don't want mommy to be the one who doesn't play with him. I don't want him to think he can't have fun with me. And I am just completely overcome with this feeling of guilt. The standards that I want to be at as a mother and housewife are completely gone because I am stuck with my feet up on the couch.

As stay at home mom's a lot of our identity is wrapped up in how we care for our children and take care of our house. We tend to hold our selves to this standard, and sometimes we are asking too much of ourselves because we feel guilty if we don't measure up. We feel the need to validate our work at home - to convince people that what we are doing really is work, it's hard, and if we don't do it you will notice we are missing. We want to be successful in what we do because we want to feel like we are making a difference and that we are doing a great job at it. Falling short on our to-do list just isn't supposed to happen. Taking a back seat on the mama role just isn't part of the equation.

"Each time he said, "My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That's why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, than I am strong." 2 Cor. 12:9-11

It's in our weakness, it's in our imperfection, it's when we don't measure up to those impossible standards we are setting for ourselves that we really succeed as mothers. We aren't supposed to do this alone. It's here where I can't do it all that God comes in and fills in the gaps. It's here where He says just rest and trust in Him. It's here that I do what I can and sit back and allow God to do the rest. God never asked for us to be perfect, He never placed unrealistic expectations on us. In fact, God has done quite the opposite. He's told us, "My grace is all you need. My power is best in weakness." We were never meant to do it all and it doesn't make us any less of a mother. We are stronger and we can overcome the guilt when we recognize that it's in Him that we become the mother's we are meant to be.